Comments on: Us Bitter, Bitter Asian Men!

By: Rose

Rose — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 05:59:45 +0000

I am a 33 year old Asian female in Canada. I moved here when I was about 9 years old. I have reservations about dating and marrying second generation Asian men. I suspect that secretly they desire Caucasian women more than Asian women even if they don’t admit it. Why? Because ever since birth these Canadian/American-born Asian men have been bombarded with the Caucasian beauty standard and media images of Caucasian women. Caucasian women images have been eroticized for him constantly, meanwhile the only images he has had of Asian women were his mother and sister. So, how is he supposed to feel an erotic attraction for me, when on the unconscious level, it was never hardwired into him through his development phase of childhood and early adulthood. I have directly heard many second generation Korean boys at my church say that Asian girls remind them of their sisters. I heard them say this a lot when I was in my teens. After that, I wrote off these banana boys permanently and never looked in their direction again as dating potential or marriage material. This does not apply to FOB (1st generation) Korean males because they grew up under entirely different conditions where Korean women are eroticized for them through the Korean media back in Korea. So, my point is that I think you 2nd generation boys prefer white women deep down over Asian girls but you are afraid to admit it. And you only want us because you can’t get white women.

By: cgoppy

cgoppy — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 03:57:05 +0000

Hey guys, you people need to get laid, like me…I get laid constantly

By: chris

chris — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 17:09:27 +0000

ps christine, i’m chinese, and i love filipino girls! i was raised catholic (i dont know how or why i’m chinese and catholic, but i am, and it is pretty important to me)

i’m equal opportunity when it comes to girls too, i’ve also dated all the colors of the rainbow, but obviously… haven’t met the right one yet.

By: bitter asian man

bitter asian man — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 17:02:46 +0000

Raymond,

Chicago is riddled with white guys and asian girls walking down the street hand in hand arrogantly exposing their membership into a secret society of vomit-inducing relationships which are spreading like a plague.

I’m also Chinese, and American. I don’t think it is accurate to say white girls dont want to have anything to do with us- in fact, they love us. White girls love asian guys. They are sick of white guys driving big trucks shooting rabbits and beating on them with a combined IQ of 20. They appreciate our intelligence, and compassion.

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By: Christine

Christine — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 03:57:33 +0000

Howdy,

I’m an Asian, predominantly Filipino woman. I am currently dating a Caucasian, but mainly for one reason: he’s a lot like my dad and I’m not a halfy.

I’ve always been pretty equal opportunity when it comes to the guys I date and across the board, I’ve dated every color of the rainbow except Asian guys. There we not many in my area, but also – Asian guys don’t go for me. One thing I find discouraging about dating Asian guys is the onslaught of racism from their parents over me being a Filipino, it’s happened to a lot of my friends. I’ve never understood the basis for that attitude but if you couple all my circumstances together – the odds of me being able to date an Asian guy would be pretty low.

By: Just Some Name

Just Some Name — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 07:29:20 +0000

I don’t think this is a trend or fad that’ll simply go away. Asian women have always been seen as exotic and sexy and always going for the white man in movies ever since the 40s and 50s. And has gotten significantly worst as time goes on. And to answer your statement about it maybe getting better here since you wrote this, it hasn’t improved one bit. If anything, it is worst than it was before.

By: Raymond Lam

Raymond Lam — Sun, 27 Jul 2008 02:59:10 +0000

To my knowledge, it is in the States. In Australia, Brisbane at least, the ratios are a bit more… balanced. However, I’m just passing knowledge on since I don’t live in America. It is undoubtedly true that in the States that Asian men face difficulties in dating outside of their own race. I would attribute it to the prevalent racist attitudes still running undercurrents in Western society, as well as the admittedly deplorable way Asian men are depicted in the media.

But don’t be too discouraged, honestly – this post of mine was written ages ago, for all I know things may have improved slightly in the States. This post might even be a bit outdated.

By: Marissa

Marissa — Sun, 27 Jul 2008 02:21:22 +0000

I am a caucasion woman residing in the United States, and until I accidentally ran across this blog, I had no idea that Asian men face such difficulties in dating. When I met my boyfriend, I didn’t even think about the fact that he is Vietnamese. I liked him and that was all that mattered. Is it really that big of a deal?

By: Raymond Lam

Raymond Lam — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 18:25:02 +0000

Yo,

it’s actually been a long time since I wrote this post and from my knowledge, over the past year, things have gone slightly better for Asian men in the West – not by much though. If you know me well, however, I don’t put all the blame on the phenomenon of ’self-hating’ Asians in a Westernized society – it is easily possible that some Asian men simply are boring when it comes to work and play.

But most Asian guys have dedication and a heart of romance most ladies dream about. In fact, I’d say that if you don’t confess, you risk losing a lot. And if the Chinese gentleman of your affections rejects you simply because of race, who is the one more obsessed about race – you, or him?

And if it’s him, is a man preoccupied with his own race, do you believe you’ll get anywhere with him?